Community Guidelines

Real talk between mothers. The 3am thoughts. The questions you can't Google. The relief of hearing "me too" from someone who actually gets it.

• Be honest, be kind. Both. Honesty without kindness is cruelty; kindness without honesty isn't useful.
• Lead with empathy. Assume the woman on the other side is doing her best with what she has.
• Share, don't prescribe. "Here's what worked for me" lands better than "you should".
• Hold space for hard things. If someone shares something heavy, you don't need to fix it. Witnessing is enough.
• What's said here, stays here. Don't screenshot. Don't repost. Don't tell your group chat.

• Judging, shaming, or moralising other mothers' choices (feeding, sleep, working, partnering — none of it)
• Hate speech, slurs, harassment, or content targeting someone's race, religion, sexuality, gender, body, or class
• Identifying photos or full names of children — yours or anyone else's
• Sharing another member's identity, location, workplace, or anything they didn't choose to share
• Promoting products, businesses, MLMs, coaching programmes, or sliding into DMs to sell
• Posing as a professional (doctor, therapist, lawyer) when you aren't — and even if you are, lived experience is what we share here, not clinical advice
• Spam, scraping, or anything that exists to extract value rather than give it

Other mothers can save your sanity, but they can't replace your doctor, midwife, therapist, or lawyer. If you're worried about your health, your baby's health, or your safety — please reach out to a qualified professional. We're the village. We're not the hospital.

If you read something that suggests a member is in danger — to themselves, their baby, or someone else — please report it immediately, or email founder@underbreath.com. In an emergency, call your local emergency number first (112 in France/EU, 999 in the UK, 911 in the US).

Use the report button on any post or comment. A real person reviews every report. Depending on the situation we may: leave a private note, remove the content, warn the member, suspend their account, or permanently remove them from UnderBreath.

Serious or illegal content (threats, CSAM, doxxing, incitement to violence) results in immediate removal and, where appropriate, a report to authorities.

In line with the EU Digital Services Act, every removal or restriction comes with a clear statement of reasons. If we removed your content or account and you think we got it wrong, email founder@underbreath.com within six months. A different person from whoever made the original decision will review, free of charge. You also have the right to refer the matter to a certified out-of-court dispute settlement body, or to seek judicial redress.

Be the woman you needed at 3am. Protect the women who'll join after you.